How to get rid of autoaggression? How can we find wisdom? Observing other people? Yes, but only if we see in them a spark of God.
“But he who is full of faith is certainly under no fear; for there is an inconsistency between faith and fear. Now, whoever is subject to grief is subject to fear; for whatever things we grieve at when present we dread when hanging over us and approaching. Thus it comes about that grief is inconsistent with courage: it is very probable, therefore, that whoever is subject to grief is also liable to fear, and to a broken kind of spirits and sinking. Now, whenever these befall a man, he is in a servile state, and must own that he is overpowered; for whoever admits these feelings, must admit timidity and cowardice. But these cannot enter into the mind of a man of courage; neither, therefore, can grief: but the man of courage is the only wise man; therefore grief cannot befall the wise man. It is, besides, necessary that whoever is brave should be a man of great soul; that whoever is a man of a great soul should be invincible; whoever is invincible looks down with contempt on all things here, and considers them, beneath him. But no one can despise those things on account of which he may be affected with grief; from whence it follows that a wise man is never affected with grief: for all wise men are brave; therefore a wise man is not subject to grief. And as the eye, when disordered, is not in a good condition for performing its office properly; and as the other parts, and the whole body itself, when unsettled, cannot perform their office and business; so the mind, when disordered, is but ill-fitted to perform its duty. The office of the mind is to use its reason well; but the mind of a wise man is always in condition to make the best use of his reason, and therefore is never out of order. But grief is a disorder of the mind; therefore a wise man will be always free from it.”
Tusculan Disputations by Marcus Tullius Cicero
“Music brings healing to both the mind and the body. Don Campbell, founder of the Institute for Music, Health and Education states that all forms of musical intonation with one’s voice affects mood and memory. Much has been studied regarding the Mozart effect and its benefits for memory and concentration. Campbell says, nothing rivals toning. Making elongated vowel tones for extended periods, is soothing to the mind and dates back to the chant of the early Christian Church. The Ahhh sound evokes a relaxation response, while an Ee or Ay is the most stimulating of the vowel sounds and helps with concentrating and the releasing of pain and anger. Oh or Om can increase skin temperature and relax muscle tension. Liturgical chant has these sounds and the ison is one elongated sound that gives an ethereal quality to the music. These intonations affect the temporal lobes (the temporal lobes lie underneath the temples and are associated with emotion, facial recognition, and spiritual experiences) and it is not by accident that music and chant has been associated with spiritual practice. Campbell writes about people who tone on a regular basis for 5 minutes a day: I have witnessed thousands of people relax into other emotions, and free themselves from physical pain. . . . I have seen many people apply toning in practical ways, from relaxing between a dreaded test to eliminating symptoms of tinnitus or migraine headaches. . . . Toning has been effective in relieving insomnia and other sleep disorders. . . . Toning balances brain waves, deepens the breath, reduces heart rate, and imparts a general sense of well-being. St. Basil the Great writes, Soothing hymns compose the mind to a cheerful and calm state, and as St. Augustine puts it, to sing is to pray twice.”
Healing the Mind: The Nexus between Contemporary Psychology and Eastern Christian Practice by Erik Bohlin, M.A., LMHC
Sometimes we feel extremely worried or frightened about something and at the same time we deceive ourselves about this condition. We behave passively as if our fear will be harmless. In practice, however, it has a detrimental effect to the quality of our life. Iterative fear is pulling a human down consistently. But there are always ways to disentangle our self from far-reaching negative consequences. Life is continuous formation through choices. Even within one second we have many alternatives to choose. If we afraid of something, we should take into account at least two choices. One option is connected with becoming indifferent to the difficulties in our lives. The other option creates such a mechanism that our fears will stimulate us appropriately. Let my intuition tell me that at the moment I choose the second option.
“Female gender mooches around the coloured goods and booths with cookies. Relentless time has left a stamp on these cakes. They are covered with sweet rust and black mold. Buy these cakes, but, please, keep them away from your mouth; if not, you will be in trouble. The same can be said about dried pears and caramel. Pitiful doughnuts are covered with strange matting, there are also ones covered with earth dust. They seem to be dirt cheap for women. The belly is not a mirror.”
The Fair by Anton Chekhov
In other words, one could say that the stomach does not look in the mirror.
Today we rather do not have problems with keeping a good standard of hygiene. We eat food with artificial flavouring, dyes and preservatives. A mirror reflects our face, not belly.
Maybe you could cook your own cakes.
300 g flour200 g butter
100 g icing sugar
3 egg yolks
a pinch of salt
100 g chocolate
25 g butter
Sift the flour. Add the butter, sugar, salt and yolks. Knead the homogenous dough. Wrap it in the plastic foil and chill for 1 hour. Preheat the oven to 200 degrees C. Line the baking sheet with wax paper. Make biscuits and place them on the baking sheet. Bake for 10 minutes. Melt butter and chocolate in a bowl placed over hot water. Dip biscuits in the chocolate mixture.
The effects of laziness are terrible.
“(…) however wretched he was, he did not want to change his position. . . . A heavy nightmarish lethargy gradually gained possession of him and fettered his limbs.”
Typhus by Anton Chekhov
The concept of laziness is understood superficially, however. The human condition overwhelmed by lethargy and laziness is more complex. There are many reasons of this indisposition: lack of believing in yourself, misunderstanding about your importance in life, the choice of the unfathomable objectives; and ultimately: anxiety, dejection and depression.